My cats are my world and I cannot imagine life without them, especially during tough times. You can probably relate to the feeling of unconditional love for your cat and the desire to smother him or her in hugs and kisses, but it can be hard to tell whether or not that love is returned.
So how can you make a cat to like you?
In this article, we’ll explore how our cats perceive us and our home, as well as how they demonstrate devotion. We will help you to maximise the human-cat relationship and help to make your cat love you even more.
For those who have not spent much time around cats or consider themselves ‘dog people’, these tips will help build confidence and teach you invaluable knowledge about cats.
How To Get A Cat To Love You?
Most people think cats are mysterious and complex, however once you appreciate them and gain their trust, they will be devoted to you forever. Some will even follow you endlessly around the home while others may bring you ‘gifts’ and shower you with cat cuddles.
Here are a few ways to make a cat love you.
#1 Inspire Positive And Caring Human-Cat Interactions.
Have you noticed that people who dislike or are allergic to cats are often the ones cats are most attracted to? It’s simply because they do not seem like a threat.
Cats are solitary beings who like to be in control. Consider the “less is more” approach, allowing him or her to take charge of social interactions with you and family members.
Provide positive, consistent, and predictable human-cat social interaction at all times.
Stay calm and confident, avoid sudden movements, and avoid any aggressive behaviors.
Our feline companions can sense anxiety or frustration and may run and hide if they feel intimidated. Do not follow or retrieve them from their hiding spot. Respect their privacy.
- Avoid staring at your cat’s eyes and coming straight towards him or her. Instead, blink slowly and wait for him or her to blink back and approach you.
- When greeted, get down to a cat’s level, gently offer a relaxed finger to sniff, and allow the cat to push their head towards you. This action mimics familiar cats who engage in nose-to-nose sniffing.
- While handling, avoid leaning or reaching over your cat as much as possible, use the sideways approach and avert your gaze (evades the cat feeling threatened). Cats generally prefer low intensity and high-frequency handling. Respect their wishes and body language.
- If your cat is hesitant to come towards you, gently toss a treat nearby to help them associate your presence with a positive interaction.
#2 Encourage Expression Of Natural Predatory Behaviour.
Inspire your cat to exercise and express their normal predatory behaviours (stalk, pounce, capture, reward) using play. Try motion sensor and interactive toys, Nina Ottosson Treat Puzzle Games, snuffle mats, Da Purr Peller, imaginative vertical towers, and cardboard castles.
Stimulate foraging by concealing food in different spots. It is more natural for cats to scavenge and eat small meals from multiple locations, aiding mental and physical stimulation.
Naturally, cats have tendencies to explore, forage, climb, hunt, and patrol territories. Fenced cat-friendly gardens, harness and leash walks, and portable enclosures are all environments suitable for such behaviors.
Most cats tend to avoid boundless spaces, which can leave them feeling visible and vulnerable. However, confident, adventuresome cats may enjoy outdoor hiking journeys.
#3 Teach A New Trick.
Your individual cat can be trained to perform many tricks which can help reduce fear, anxiety, and frustration. Training also reinforces the human-animal bond. Unlike dogs, cats will not take kindly to coercion or petting as a reward. Some cats are food-driven or toy-motivated and can be clicker or target trained.
Also Read: 5 Easy Tricks To Teach Your Cat
Once you figure out their most desirable treat or incentive, start with short sessions lasting a few minutes each day. Recent research suggests that teaching cats simple tasks such as giving a paw, sitting, or high-five may be an effective way to reduce frustration in rescue homes and indoor cats.
#4 Guard Against Anthropomorphism
Learn as much as you can about felines and what motivates their behaviour.
‘Mother’ but don’t smother your cat with emotions and approachability, avoid picking them up unless necessary.
Provide your cat the flexibility to maintain a sense of control during social contact. Option to initiate an interaction and leave when desired.
Moggies like hiding and sleeping uninterrupted, respect their need for space and serenity – don’t take it personally since they prefer to be alone.
#5 Enhance Your Cat’s Environment!
Enhancing your pet’s environment means providing them not only a secure home that meets their specific needs but also a ‘natural’ environment that pleases their individual and instinctive needs.
Cats love three-dimensional living. Height isn’t only pleasing, a form of exercise, but necessary as a security platform and concealment from predators.
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Aromatic stimulation with scent trails consisting of garden leaves and herbs like catmint or catnip can be established for your cat indoors or hidden in boxes.
A recent study concluded that cat enclosures provide a practical solution for indoor and free-roaming cats, it removes the requirement for wandering and has been related to positive changes within the cat’s quality of life and owner’s safety concerns.
#6 Inspire Daily Consistent Human-Cat Bond
A positive cat-human relationship is useful for both species, it strengthens the love and bond we share for each other. Research shows that pet owners who have a stronger bond with their pet visit the vet more frequently, are more likely to offer preventative care, and more likely to try what the vet recommends (Lue et al 2008).
All you need to do is maintain predictability together with routine to minimize stress, which helps their overall health and welfare.
Allow them to take charge of social interactions, provide opportunities for play (which is ultimately hunting behavior), and recognize your cat’s needs. Give them plenty of time to become aware of new situations, places, children and other people.
#7 Introduce Novelty Objects and Encounters
Cats are explorative animals; they use their sense of smell in many behaviours. They’ll respond differently to the same odour when detected at various times. Hence, cats take pleasure in the introduction of novel food, items, and encounters on regular basis.
Supervised olfactory enrichment activities with the use of herbs and/or silver vine, scent sticks made up of PVC pipe scented with lavender or chamomile, fresh grass clippings, and valerian can be added.
Experiment with fresh food like melon, watermelon, spinach, lettuce, cabbage, and raw meat (those fed wet/dry food).
Also Read: Which Fruits Can Cats Eat?
Trial plant material like tree branches, hay, straw and take indoor cats on leash or pram walks (once fully desensitized to equipment).
#8 Engage in Daily Interactive Play
Interactive playtime mimics predatory behaviour and should be part of your regular routine. Play encourages exercise, decreases boredom, helps maintain regular weight, prevents behaviour problems, and is particularly important for indoor cats.
Do Not Be Disheartened If Your Cat Is Not A Lap Cat.
Many long-haired breeds and certain semi-long hair felines overheat when sitting on our laps. Instead of being saddened that your cat doesn’t sit on your lap, feel complimented when he or she shares the couch with you.
Handle negative reactions by watching early warning body language signs, aggressive sounds, and stepping away will help build trust and develop a positive relationship.
As the human-cat relationship evolves, life becomes harder, and people become more isolated, we turn towards our cats for comfort and the bond may become more complicated. It is important not to burden our cats with our emotions and allow them to be cats.
Each cat and its owner cultivate a distinctive language and connection that they both understand but is not shared by others.
By getting to know our individual cats’ likes and dislikes, then allowing them to determine the quality and quantity of interaction, may be the key to getting the relationship perfect.
Frequently Asked Questions
How do you bond with your cat?
Learn as much as possible about cats as a species, observe their body language and behaviour, then interpret it based on the feline perspective.
Socialisation time and physical contact through play and exercise increases the human-animal bond.
Offer your cat hiding space and food rewards. Encourage positive behaviour at all times.
Ensure there are sufficient resources within your home in adequate quantities and positioned in diverse locations. Cats who enjoy regular, slow, gentle brushing and contact may enjoy massage. Massage the coat by stroking it along the fibres of the hair. Massage strengthens the immune system, relieves stress, transmits the psychological benefits of touch to your cat, improves emotional wellbeing and overtime can lead to reduction in muscle soreness, pain and increase your friendship.
Cherish your cat’s need to become familiar with new places, situations, and people on their terms and on their own time.
Do cats feel love when you kiss them?
Cats are emotionally sensitive; they feel pleasure, fear, and frustration like people. Most likely they sense love through touch and generally tolerate kissing on top of their head but will not like being kissed on the mouth. Cats sniff, touch, and groom each other but not in the traditional human sense.
Lots of cats lick their owners regularly and according to scientists, the probable explanation is the cat trying to convey something to its owner about their relationship (most likely affection).
Kissing is a human way of displaying affection. It is essential we do not anthropomorphise by attributing human traits and emotions to our cats - learning to love our cat differently is similarly rewarding!
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